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What does "being independent" really mean?
I take pride in being independent. But I'm beginning to question that phrase. "Being independent." It's a great thing. Or it can be. Independence shows the ability of standing up for yourself. It shows, regardeless of what happens in your life, that you will be able to survive. I'm independent as far as my finances. After two years of me sharing, I have finally made it to financial stability due to me being by myself. I'm starting to appreciate my independent thinking. Although I take other's suggestions in consideration, it's my choice on what I can do or not do. But is being independent all worth it? I made the choice of not wanting a relationship or children at this time ... or maybe in this lifetime. I live by the phrase, "I can do bad all by myself." It's a wonderful phrase and a good way to live, but there is always something missing. Right now, I'm reading this book where chivalry is creeping in. My heart would love to have someone open doors for me or pick me up from work. The chance given to me to be someone's center of attention and in a positive way. Loneliness starts to overwhelm me at times, but then I think of all the guys that live around me in this town and I say to myself, "Yeah, Wendy ... it's best to stay by yourself as long as you live here." So is being "Miss Independent" good? It can be, but the underlying feeling of something/someone is missing starts to haunt the mind and the soul. 7 comments from 7 users
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posted by
BillyMau
on Nov 17, 2008 at 04:50 PM
Kelly Clarkson approves of your independence.Some people (people far more crude than I) would recommend a booty call when you're feeling lonely. I say you do the opposite. Have some guy come around and be a jerk every once in a while. Let him bring his friends over to watch your TV all night, eat all your food and leave dirty clothes on the kitchen table. If you're really feeling lonely, have him come over, get drunk and go tinkles on the front porch. You'll be so mad that you'll remember why you're happy to be independent in the first place. posted by
Ziggy
on Nov 17, 2008 at 09:34 AM
Mizz Miller :-) I concur with Ernie (below) 100% about becoming comfortable with yourself, first. I've been married a long, long time, myself. I haven't lost my independence but share my life with my hubby. We accept each other's different interests and have a lot of common ones. We are best friends. When you least expect it, a good'un will come along. Who knows, maybe he's been there all along. Peace! posted by
BIGJ
on Nov 16, 2008 at 02:39 PM
Chris Rock once said “Chivalry is dead…..and women killed it.” I got more to say about this, but that is where I stand. posted by
swbones
on Nov 16, 2008 at 08:09 AM
Some more advise from the "Peanut Gallery".Live your life, chase your dreams, (If you don't know then figure that our first). When you are satisfied with who you are and the goals/dreams you are chasing,"5, 10, 15 year plans" then the one who you are "looking for" has a chance to enter your life. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks... it is your life... live it to the edge... when you are done you can look back and say "what a ride that was!!!" posted by
ErnieCash
on Nov 15, 2008 at 06:39 PM
If you don't mind the advice from the Old Fogey cheap seats.... :) I learned independence from my maternal Grandfather. Since my college days I have not asked my parents for anything beyond a place to stay when we make the trek to their home to visit. That's great but I gather that emotional independence not financial, is really the gist of your discussion. I've been through a couple of wives too. [sigh| Without going into all the psychology of *that* parade if mistakes, I got married first because it was the thing to do in my family - get married and raise a family - and stayed married (for 20 years) because it was the *right* thing to do. The second was not worth mentioning. "Mid-life crisis" is the term normally applied. Then I got smart. (What's that saying: "Too soon old, too late smart?") I realized that in order to be comfortable sharing your life with someone else, you first have to be comfortable living with yourself. It's human nature to want someone else in your life and to share both the joys of living as well as the difficult times with a reliable "other half" who will always predictably be nearby during the times of happiness and successes and also at those times when you need to "share the load." Friends are a great but often unsatisfactory or unreliably present substitute for that one someone special. I learned all that from the first marriage. From the second I learned that for a relationship to last you better have some shared interests and subjects you can discuss on an equal footing once the heavy breathing's over with. :-) Ernie posted by
legion357
on Nov 15, 2008 at 03:20 PM
Of topic but the what color does a smurf turn when you choke him?, I had to lol, good one.
BTW I still want to know who baby smurfs daddy is, since there was only one female around and lots of male smurfs, lol. posted by
romonak
on Nov 15, 2008 at 03:13 PM
I think being independant is fine. But are you swearing of men altogether? There are so great guys in Victoria. I hardly imagine you have met them all. Not saying you should go out man-hunting, but don't be against it if you meet someone who you find interesting. Feeling lonely? Well yeah, it IS human nature to want to be with another person.
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