http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749 Today's story about Porter Gavin Grimes -- a baby boy born at 11:55 p.m. Saturday, five minutes before Father's Day -- caused quit a stir. Little Porter's parents, Michael Acuna and Allison Grimes, are not married. Online commenters are upset the newspaper featured young parents who are unwed. The Advocate's Bj Lewis reported the story. "In light of the uproar ... I wanted to explore the issue of wed versus unwed parents," Bj said. Bj wants to talk to parents, both married and unwed, about parenthood. "Times are changing and unwed parents are more common. I would like to speak with people willing to share thoughts, comments and insight, success stories and other tales about being an unwed parent -- or even being a married parent who is no longer married," Bj said. "That happens, too." To add your thoughts to this story, you can comment in here or contact Bj at 361-580-6535 or bjlewis@vicad.com. Thanks for your help. Gabe Semenza/Advocate public service editor. Today's story about Porter Gavin Grimes -- a baby boy born at 11:55 p.m. Saturday, five minutes before Father's Day -- caused quit a stir. Little Porter's parents, Michael Acuna and Allison Grimes, are not married. Online commenters are upset the newspaper featured young parents who are unwed. The Advocate's Bj Lewis reported the story. "In light of the uproar ... I wanted to explore the issue of wed versus unwed parents," Bj said. Bj wants to talk to parents, both married and unwed, about parenthood. "Times are changing and unwed parents are more common. I would like to speak with people willing to share thoughts, comments and insight, success stories and other tales about being an unwed parent -- or even being a married parent who is no longer married," Bj said. "That happens, too." To add your thoughts to this story, you can comment in here or contact Bj at 361-580-6535 or bjlewis@vicad.com. Thanks for your help. Gabe Semenza/Advocate public service editor. en-us I had no problem with the story. I read it and I noticed they weren't married either, but it didn't bother me. But knowing Victoria, I knew people were going to complain and sure enough there were comments already by the time I had finished reading the story LOL It's a bunch of do-gooders who have nothing else to do but worry about OTHER people's lives. These are the same people that are Pro-Life....but hey, having this kid wasn't good enough...let's complain that the couple wasn't married now since the kid is safe. You can't ever satisfy these type of people because they are perfect in their own little warped minds. They could have solved this issue by just having an abortion....but then the do-gooders would be in an uproar over that as well. http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53781 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53781 I had no problem with the story. I read it and I noticed they weren't married either, but it didn't bother me. But knowing Victoria, I knew people were going to complain and sure enough there were comments already by the time I had finished reading the story LOL It's a bunch of do-gooders who have nothing else to do but worry about OTHER people's lives. These are the same people that are Pro-Life....but hey, having this kid wasn't good enough...let's complain that the couple wasn't married now since the kid is safe. You can't ever satisfy these type of people because they are perfect in their own little warped minds. They could have solved this issue by just having an abortion....but then the do-gooders would be in an uproar over that as well. Seriously????  With everything going on in the city/state/world today, people actually took issue with a positive story, LMAO???? My ex and I were not married when our son was born in Victoria Regional 10 years ago, but we had been together almost 4 years at that point.  When we split up a few years later, we still had to get a divorce filed for custody and child support reasons.  My current husband and I were together for 2 years, moved in together the next year, got married the year after that, and had our second son 6 months later.  *grin*  So I obviously see no problem with unwed couples living together and/or having children together.  I mean, really--who am I to pass judgment on how someone wants to live their life, you know? RedRage00, I think you made an extremely good point in your comment.   Sadly, some people just can't be satisfied. http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53797 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53797 Seriously????  With everything going on in the city/state/world today, people actually took issue with a positive story, LMAO???? My ex and I were not married when our son was born in Victoria Regional 10 years ago, but we had been together almost 4 years at that point.  When we split up a few years later, we still had to get a divorce filed for custody and child support reasons.  My current husband and I were together for 2 years, moved in together the next year, got married the year after that, and had our second son 6 months later.  *grin*  So I obviously see no problem with unwed couples living together and/or having children together.  I mean, really--who am I to pass judgment on how someone wants to live their life, you know? RedRage00, I think you made an extremely good point in your comment.   Sadly, some people just can't be satisfied. I was very upset at the Father's Day story on the front page of the Advocate.  This paper used to be about hard news , educational editorials (even when I did not agree with the point of view), and stories which were up-lifting (values oriented).  The photo and story of the new mom , baby, and father?(sperm donor) was absoultely nauseating!   Do any of these so called parents think of the lives of the children they are bring into this world?  http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53808 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53808 I was very upset at the Father's Day story on the front page of the Advocate.  This paper used to be about hard news , educational editorials (even when I did not agree with the point of view), and stories which were up-lifting (values oriented).  The photo and story of the new mom , baby, and father?(sperm donor) was absoultely nauseating!   Do any of these so called parents think of the lives of the children they are bring into this world?  I prefered seeing Charlie Jaynes seeking refuge around his children and grandkids to this story. What are the odds that a single parent household goes on public assitance? What are odds the the Attorney General prosecutes/jails a father who does not provide child support? Perhaps this is the view of the America we live in now. No wonder our leaders lie to us, are indicted on felony charges, have racist pastors, and lead us into to senseless wars. It makes me ill. http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53821 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53821 I prefered seeing Charlie Jaynes seeking refuge around his children and grandkids to this story. What are the odds that a single parent household goes on public assitance? What are odds the the Attorney General prosecutes/jails a father who does not provide child support? Perhaps this is the view of the America we live in now. No wonder our leaders lie to us, are indicted on felony charges, have racist pastors, and lead us into to senseless wars. It makes me ill. Why don't you two worry about bigger issues in this country than people starting a family and not being married....how about worrying about the economy and the war in Iraq than whether 2 people are married. Give me a break. You know NOTHING about this couple so what gives you the right to pass judgement like your life is perfect? I'd love to be a fly in both of your living rooms because I have no doubt you both have skeletons in the closet. You two are perfect examples of people that are never satisfied. You are probably pro-life and it wasn't good enough for you two that they decided to keep the child instead of aborting it.....now you have to complain that they aren't married. Get a life and stop worrying about what other people are doing. BigHorn, like I said before....if you are so ill I hope you call in sick to work tomorrow. We don't need your sickness spreading around Victoria. Your life would be so much more stress free if you didn't worry yourself sick over other people's lives. http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53829 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53829 Why don't you two worry about bigger issues in this country than people starting a family and not being married....how about worrying about the economy and the war in Iraq than whether 2 people are married. Give me a break. You know NOTHING about this couple so what gives you the right to pass judgement like your life is perfect? I'd love to be a fly in both of your living rooms because I have no doubt you both have skeletons in the closet. You two are perfect examples of people that are never satisfied. You are probably pro-life and it wasn't good enough for you two that they decided to keep the child instead of aborting it.....now you have to complain that they aren't married. Get a life and stop worrying about what other people are doing. BigHorn, like I said before....if you are so ill I hope you call in sick to work tomorrow. We don't need your sickness spreading around Victoria. Your life would be so much more stress free if you didn't worry yourself sick over other people's lives. J2692, I suggest you seek therapy if this story made you nauseated. You obviously have bigger issues if a STORY caused you so much pain. http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53831 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53831 J2692, I suggest you seek therapy if this story made you nauseated. You obviously have bigger issues if a STORY caused you so much pain. For your info: RedRag, I'm pro choice, pro gun, pro death penalty, pro tariff, pro legal alien work force, pro working half days(12 hours ), anti tax, anti government , and anti bureaucrat. And I don't care for front page headlines featuring single fathers when there are countless more worthy candidates for such an honor. Feel free to share your insults/remarks with the rest of the world. http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53840 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53840 For your info: RedRag, I'm pro choice, pro gun, pro death penalty, pro tariff, pro legal alien work force, pro working half days(12 hours ), anti tax, anti government , and anti bureaucrat. And I don't care for front page headlines featuring single fathers when there are countless more worthy candidates for such an honor. Feel free to share your insults/remarks with the rest of the world. When a couple lives together, without the bond of marriage, how long is it before the State of Texas sees them as "common-law" married?  Thanks http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53855 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53855 When a couple lives together, without the bond of marriage, how long is it before the State of Texas sees them as "common-law" married?  Thanks The point is whether or not anyone is passing judgement or that it is "not good enough".  It is about having standards and morals that you are not willing to compromise on.  Let me ask this question, do you think it is better for a child to be brought up in a home without a father or with one? http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53936 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53936 The point is whether or not anyone is passing judgement or that it is "not good enough".  It is about having standards and morals that you are not willing to compromise on.  Let me ask this question, do you think it is better for a child to be brought up in a home without a father or with one? This is to bighorn. Leave these new parents alone. It is none of your bussiness, if they are married or not. http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53963 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_53963 This is to bighorn. Leave these new parents alone. It is none of your bussiness, if they are married or not. Maybe I beat the odds bighorn, I never got any public assistance, I worked about 14-16 hours a day, but I didnt require a handout, foodstamps or medicaid to birth my kids.  http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_54041 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_54041 Maybe I beat the odds bighorn, I never got any public assistance, I worked about 14-16 hours a day, but I didnt require a handout, foodstamps or medicaid to birth my kids.  I am the grandmother of one of babies in the article.  I would like to try to set some things straight (I know it will only give ammunition for some).  Allison and Michael are not married or living together.  As most kids do, they did not take precautions and it resulted in a beautiful baby boy.  My family will always love him no matter how he came into this world.  Allison is still living at home with me and my husband and will continue to stay until she finishes college and can support herself and her son.  Until that time we will be taking cared of them both and Michael will be supporting his son.  It is a sad world we live in where families don't take care of their own.  It is also sad that some of you have no life, that you have to complain about an article in the paper that these kids were asked to give.  May God bless all of you. http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_54150 http://community.victoriaadvocate.com/home/Blog/GabeSemenza/7749/#c_54150 I am the grandmother of one of babies in the article.  I would like to try to set some things straight (I know it will only give ammunition for some).  Allison and Michael are not married or living together.  As most kids do, they did not take precautions and it resulted in a beautiful baby boy.  My family will always love him no matter how he came into this world.  Allison is still living at home with me and my husband and will continue to stay until she finishes college and can support herself and her son.  Until that time we will be taking cared of them both and Michael will be supporting his son.  It is a sad world we live in where families don't take care of their own.  It is also sad that some of you have no life, that you have to complain about an article in the paper that these kids were asked to give.  May God bless all of you.